Archive for February, 2009

Dad at 13

In the light of recent event – a 13-year-old boy fathered a child with his 15-year-old girlfriend- it has come to my pondering; what has come to kids today and have parents failed?

No offence but I must say, we need parents who are willing to say to their children, ‘I love you so much that I am willing to say ‘no’ to you’. And this is one case where a big ‘NO’ should have come before the damage occurred. We must teach them what sex is all about but to no avail and I’m sorry to say that parents today come shy to even talk about ‘the flower and the bees’ subject. And where do the children learn it from? other means by which from the mass media and even from their friends.

Kids can’t do what they like and when do parents must come in to guide? do we have such parents who can do that?

Many parents often accede to what children want. Sometimes you have to take a firm stand to say ‘NO!’. Is the British report a clear case of social breakdown? if it can happen there, it can happen ANYWHERE. Here are some guidelines that maybe can be implemented to keep this kind of thing at bay:

  • Be consistent. If you don’t, you will confuse your children.
  • Don’t make promises you can’t keep.
  • Don’t make you children feel smaller than they are.
  • Don’t correct your children in front of others. Talk to them in private.
  • Stop preaching to your children.
  • Don’t be put off when your children ask honest qustions.
  • Treat your children as individuals, not things.
  • Don’t think it is beneath your dignity to apologise to your children when you are wrong.
  • And don’t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible.

Teach them the ways God and to respect authority. Be consistent, decisive abd respectful of your children as individuals. Hold your children accountable for their actions and help them learn from experience. But when you teach, do that with love and concern. Balance responsibility with forgiveness and love.